Trust is foundational to a relationship. So losing it is a pretty big blow. And gaining it back is often a long and difficult process. At times it may even seem impossible. It’s at this time that many couples reluctantly give up. But, if both partners are willing to work on restoring trust, there is hope with relationship counselling from a certified counsellor in Surrey.
Relationship counselling steps that help Surrey couples rebuild
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Take accountability
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Put in the effort
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Be consistent
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Have patience
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Acknowledge efforts
Losing trust in your relationship partner feels like having the rug pulled out from under your feet. It can leave you feeling less secure, less safe, and like you’re living every day on shaky ground. Strong feelings build up, including anger, resentment, hurt, doubt, and anxiety. The path forward for committed couples includes taking accountability, putting in and acknowledging consistent effort, and having patience for the process to work.
However, seeing the way through the entire rebuilding process can be difficult for a couple on their own because of the strength of emotions and because restoring trust takes a lot of time and steps. Gaining trust is a fragile progression and times of uncertainty can undo the work already done.
A trained therapist can help guide a couple who then stand a greater chance of rebuilding their trust and saving their relationship. They get the chance to engage in open and honest communication in a supportive environment. They can talk and be heard by someone who understands. Partners learn about each other’s communication styles and conflict resolution strategies. And they’ll get concrete actions they can take that continue to move them forward toward rebuilding their trust and strengthening their relationship.
Alison Bell and her certified team specialise in relationship counselling and will be very happy to speak with you and answer any of your questions in person, by email or by phone: 604-372-1545.
